During lunch the other day…
Friend 1: So I spent my weekend consoling my friend in California. She and her boyfriend of 7 years just broke up
The “awww” sound was made around the table as is appropriate after such an announcement.
Friend 1: She just discovered the her boyfriend has been cheating on her…. with another GUY!
Reactions varied. The majority sympathized with the girl, as one is inclined to do when one learns that someone has been cheated on. Our gay guy friend on the other hand doesn’t feel quite the same.
Gay guy friend: Well at least he cheated on her with a guy.
Friend 1: What? But isn’t it just awful? It’s as if he’s saying that being in a relationship with her was so bad that she has turned him off the whole female race forever!
Gay guy friend: Trust me, you don’t just turn someone gay. So it’s really nothing against her personally.
Friend 2: But that means that he lied to her and wasted her time for the last 7 years! At least if he’d cheated on her with another girl, she can tell herself that well at least she’d tried and he’s just an a hole for not appreciating how fabulous she is. It’s a bit harder to blame someone for their sexual orientation.
But is there a ‘better’ way to be cheated on? Or is cheating cheating, regardless of whether your partner left you for their own sex or not?
Tea with BG 
Shalaye said:
I agree with Friend 2. Cheating is cheating regardless of gender. Maybe her ex was going through a time where he discovered that he was gay/bisexual and wanted to be in a same-sex relationship; however, he still owes it to his girlfriend to be honest with her.
xoxo said:
i hate cheating… he should have had the decency to tell her that he was going thru som stuff and that he needed a beak.. What a self centered looser he is for wasting 7 of her years…
eunice said:
well.. yeah, cheating is cheating – I agree with that… but cheating with someone from the same gender, while previously dated the opposite is really worse, I think…
I, once, found out that the guy I dated was a bisexual…then I turned him down for the reason that I might be very disappointed with myself, if it ever happens to me that he cheats with a GUY..
hehehe… but that’s just my personal opinion…
Roxanne said:
Cheating is horrible regardless, however, if I were the cheated-on or friend 1 I’d try and find flattery that even though he’s clearly gay I was worth him trying to be with me for 7 years. xx